How’s your peace?
It seems like this pandemic has consisted just as much of fear, worry, and division as illness.
Right now, we are being challenged and convicted on all fronts about our beliefs and lifestyles. Should I wear a mask? If so, what kind? Do I send my kids to school in the fall or try virtual schooling? Should we cancel our baby’s first birthday party?
I have found that cross-cultural living is quite similar to life in 2020. My mind is constantly racing, trying to decide what to keep from my Gringo ways and how to assimilate to the Tico lifestyle.
Most of the time I feel like no matter what decision I make, someone disapproves.
In the movie Selena, Abraham Quintanilla expresses the challenge of being Mexican-American: “Anglos jump all over you if you don’t speak English perfectly. Mexicans jump all over you if you don’t speak Spanish perfectly. We’ve gotta be twice as perfect as anybody else…we’ve gotta prove to the Mexicans how Mexican we are and we gotta prove to the Americans how American we are…It’s exhausting!”
I know my circumstances are different, but I feel ya, Abraham!
Whether living in 2020, raising your kiddos cross-culturally, or being a Mexican-American icon, one thing is for sure: someone is NOT going to be happy with our choices. And now more than ever, people are being vocal about it. As soon as we think we’ve reached peace of mind, someone decides to give a piece of theirs.
Maybe you aren’t like me, but way too often I let the judgmental comments rob me of my peace. I start to obsess over how I can please my neighbors. I seek the approval of everyone around me.
There are days where I focus so much on “fitting in” or becoming an “insider” that I forget where my true identity lies.
“Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”
Others might not be impressed with our choices, but let’s not forget that God doesn’t call us to fit into ANY culture. Certainly, we need to be aware that we are in the world, but our decisions need to reflect that we are not OF it.
Let’s spend less time in Facebook debates and more time digging into the Word, prayerfully considering every decision we make, trusting that our minds can rest in Him.
The world isn’t going to give us peace, but that’s okay. We were never called fit in here anyway.
This is what the LORD says: “Stand at the crossroads and look; ask for the ancient paths, ask where the good way is, and walk in it, and you will find rest for your souls.
– Jeremiah 6:16
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