♫ “When the moon hits your eye like a big pizza pie that’s amore…” ♫
When we talk about amor, it’s sometimes hard to put into words. There is romantic love, unconditional love, familial love, etc.
So when God calls us to love others, it can seem confusing. It is easy to understand WHY we love others:
“We love because he first loved us.-1 John 4:19
But HOW can we love?
In Spanish, the verb to love is amar. In a recent meeting with a pastor friend, he reminded us that there is a distinct difference between amor (the noun “love”) and amar (the verb “to love”).
I feel this applies to so much of life.
As a mom, I have so much love for my children, but are my actions showing it? Is letting Aubree eat another sugary cookie to make her feel happy really LOVING her, or is teaching her self control and what is appropriate to eat a better way to show her God’s love?
As a wife, I have love (amor) for my husband. But do I love (amar) him with my actions?
As a neighbor, God calls me to reflect His love. So how can I do that??
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” -Ephesians 4:2
Lately I have been challenged to amar more like God. He calls us to be humble, gentle, and patient, just as He humbly suffered on a cross, the most amazing example of amar.
But to love, to truly show unconditional love with my actions, to deny my pride and love others even when they are unloveable… is NOT an easy task. And it is impossible to do on my own.
The more time I spend in the Word, soaking up the beautiful story of God’s redemption, the more amor flows out of me!
Right now, our ministry team is on the cusp of starting a new program. When working with a program, it is tempting to get so caught up in making it successful that even though God has filled us with His amor for His people, we forget what it truly means to amar them.
So we are bearing with others. Drinking coffee with them. Living life, the good and bad. Loving people through marital problems. Loving them through conflicts. Loving them through their drunkenness or bitterness. Loving them even when they hurt us.
And we listen. We don’t jump in to fix their problems or change them. We wait on the Lord, seek advice, and study on HOW we can truly amar them.
It is slow, but it is how we learn the needs of people so that we can truly amar them.
Let all that you do be done in love. -1 Corinthians 16:14